Keeping in mind what my parents always said. It is about 'Forgive and Forget' Which I practice very perfect... I never keep hatred in my chest, because it will cause me a burden of stress. It is like an acid which is strong and erosive, It will turn my mind violent and aggressive. When I forget, I forget it totally complete, Like clicking the mouse on the button 'DELETE'
I encourage you to read Tyler's thoughts here:
When you haven't forgiven those who've hurt you, you turn your back against your future. When you do forgive, you start walking forward.
Is it possible to truly forgive all transgressions?
How do you forgive someone who physically abused you when you were a child?
How do you forgive someone who raped you or a family member?
How do you forgive someone who spread vicious and humiliating lies about you?
How do you forgive parents who put their own needs and egos way ahead of your basic emotional needs as a child?
How do you forgive a parent who left you when you were young?
How do you forgive someone who has sucked the joy out of your life through his or her negative, hypocritical, phony, lazy, selfish, and ill-tempered behavior over 30 years of marriage?
I really don't have a clue how you can truly forgive others for any of the above. Maybe complete forgiveness is impossible in some cases. You don't have to make it known to the people who hurt you that you have forgiven them. Refusing to forgive and forget and seeking vengeance makes you look petty and small.
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." -Mahatma Ghandi - Simply stated, the ability to forgive is a sign of strength.
Unless we learn how to forget past sins, we will always live in that past. Bitterness or guilt will continue to eat away at us like a cancer. Forgive and be forgiven. And then forget it. This is the secret of spiritual health. Keep short accounts with God and men.
'Forgive and Forget' is an easy task, I don't need anybody to ask. For....giving, I give love, sympathy and understanding. For....getting, I get peace of mind as a GOD's blessing. Not only peace but also pleasure in my mind..